2015 Wishes

My life is about taking it easy;living simply and not asking too much from myself; being grateful for the things I have and the things I can do; being thankful for each day, each moment; being gracious to those around me and to myself.

For the New Year, I don't have tons of goals I wish to achieve. 

At the end of each day, I simply want to go to bed knowing that this day was enough. That each small task completed, each smile given, every part of that day, that it all was enough. That the day was perfect--probably flawed, but perfect none the less.

There are some simple things I want to infuse more of into my life.

more smiles.

more kisses.

more hugs.

more lace.

more dancing.

more music.

more concerts. 

more tea time 

curled up on the couch time

 with cozy socks and blankies time

 and time with my babes.

more painted finger nails.

perhaps a bit more organization.

and because I tend to believe less is more....

less worries.

less hurries.

less phone.

less new stuff. 

fewer things done and bought without need.

This year, I want to focus on the things that matter: my family, my friends, and myself. I want to embrace it all, in all of life's messy and wonderful glory. 

Each day, one day at a time, one breath and one moment at a time. 

Welcome to the new year.

Things I Love

It's been a long time since I showed my pretty face around here. Life has taken over and I just haven't had time, or energy, or desire, or whatever, to stop by this little space. 

I don't feel like doing an update today, but I think a little things I love may be in order. So here we go.

Things I've Been Loving in my Extended Absence:

• The amazing love I get from my husband, daughter, friends and family.
• Our trip to San Diego this August. Can I bring that weather HOME???
• Seeing a wonderful couple get married.
• Naked Juice Smoothies when I'm too lazy to make a green smoothie for real.Which, lately, is quite often.
• Meditation and Yoga sessions."I am beautiful. I am loved. I can do amazing things." Positive self-talk goes a long way.
• Cake. The food and the band, actually. 
• Crunching Ice.
• Watching my little girl start preschool. What!!
• My electric stapler at work. It's the little things!
• Getting an extra week of vacation this year for my ten year work-i-versary. 
• Shel Silverstein poems. 
• Cooler weather. Sort of. At least knowing it is coming since football season is in gear!
• The amazing things IV steroids can do for my body. Even though I partly hate them for their side-effects. Bastards. 
• Black Eyeliner. 
• Platinum Blonde Hair!!
• All the books I have been reading, from Neil Gaiman to the Divergent Series to random other things. And also, the fact that my mini-me loves to be read to as much as I love to read! 

I think that sums it up for today. Lots of love over here. Maybe I'll be back soon. :)

Spaces of Light and Dark

Lately, life has been full of contrasting shadows; full of lightness and darkness, happiness and sorrow, love and hate, yearning and fullness. I think it is safe to say that life has been full of life and us living it. 

There are things that scare me right out of my mind.

Things that are uncertain and things that are known; things are are known to be uncertain.

It's a toss up. 

I've been long absent from this space. Hiding, alone with my thoughts and my fears. Holding tight to myself and clinging...to sanity and to hope and to love...clinging to medical advances that will take away this nasty disease with which I have been diagnosed...the reason for my absence and my hermitage.

Last October, a mere four months ago, I was diagnosed with MS. Multiple Sclerosis. The first time I heard the words in conjunction with myself, I laughed in the face of fear. And then, slowly, the fear became a reality. Doctors visits and tests had become my normal. And then answers came. Not answers I wanted, but answers filled with truth. 

This is why I'm tired.

This is why my legs and feet go numb and my legs feel like wood.

This is why my torso and chest get so tight and at times so painful that it hurts to draw breath.  

This is why I have constant UTIs. 

This is why I feel awful all the time.

I've started a therapy called Copaxone. A daily injection: a daily reminder. I am sick. My body is fighting itself. 

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But, let me tell you it isn't all bad. I've learned from this, about myself and about others; about kindness and compassion; about connections; about love. I've learned you never know what that person who is seemingly being an ass is going through. You never know how people struggle. People struggle and often times you cannot look at them and tell. Their parent or sibling may be sick or recently dead, they may be sick, they may be hurting. We're all hurting. But we're all still living too. We're all a part of this big, scary world. And we're all in this together. We are all a part of this planet, this living and breathing organism of our world. 

So be kind. It costs nothing. It is freedom from your own consciousness too. You never have to wish you weren't ugly to someone because you never were. And when you look in the mirror, you'll like what you see. It does something to your face, this kindness. It makes you prettier. It really does. 

We have a choice when confronted with this scary life. We can live it and realize our impact on others and push forward into the unknown. We can embrace our fears and step out into the great unknown with a smile on our faces, love in our hears and a deeper understanding of humanity. Or we can become bitter and hide from reality. I choose life. I choose to live in the face of my fears. 

I have a new motto, a mantra if you will. I say this to myself every morning as I drag myself around and out of bed and into the day.

Get up. Dress up. Show up.

And I'm doing it. And I think that I'm happier than I have ever been.